“Believe in yourself”
On the surface we have learned to accept this phrase as an empowering statement that propels us into the land of fortune and prosperity but is that really what it’s doing?
Let’s look at this phrase – “believe in yourself”. What is there to believe exactly? You exist. What more is there that is required for you to believe in?
Do you need to believe in yourself in order for you to wake up each day or for you to see your reflection in the mirror, for you to walk down the street and get a cup of coffee, in order for you to do anything you do throughout your day, even breathe? It’s just a given isn’t it?
It’s not as if you need to consciously think each and every moment, “must believe in myself otherwise I’ll disappear from existence”, do you?
So now let’s look a little deeper.
What happens next when we believe this thought that we should “believe in ourselves”? We start to create ideas about ourselves, don’t we? Ideas that form a perception of who we believe ourselves to be. So that we have something to believe IN right?
And then we go further don’t we? We begin forming ideas about our world now that we can begin to believe in so that soon enough we are just projecting our own meaning onto ourselves and our world SO that we have something to believe in.
And then what happens? We vigorously attempt to live up to these ideas we’ve created about ourselves don’t we? Whether they are impacting our lives in a seemingly positive way or not. We struggle with them, we try to overcome the seemingly endless challenges and we may even perceive certain victories at times over these self imposed ideas.
Then what follows on from that? Don’t we find ourselves defending these ideas to others? Acting out a myriad of behaviours that seek to manipulate a common understanding that our ideas are the right ones – the truth?
And then sometimes, do you also find that you actively seek out attacking others ideas in order to maintain your “truth” about what the world is like and who you are within it? So afraid about what might happen if your ideas were found to be wrong the lengths you find yourself going to in order to protect your perceived wellbeing can bring about surprising behaviours can’t it?
And then what? Perhaps you’ll find yourself changing your mind on your ideas from time to time, so that you can redefine yourself and your world in such a way that appears to cause less conflicting moments for you in the future.
You may compare your ideas to others and their experience and find yourself manipulating or abandoning your own for theirs in order to find that relief, that all important end point of achievement of “truth” , of happiness, so that you can finally relax.
And you may even find some times you’ll just fluctuate back and forth between certain ideas, not really changing but more just ebbing and flowing between your beliefs depending on a given situation, given time of day, given state of being?
How exhausting this is! So it stands to reason that we get more and more tired each and every day as we struggle so vehemently with who we believe ourselves to be, in constant redefining or defending of our ideas as we battle with this world and it’s people that seem to oppose us at every twist and turn, seeking to undermine our very existence!
So I wonder what would happen if you didn’t believe in yourself – if you could just live your life free of the limitations and struggles that come with trying to fit into the complex establishment of ideas about who you believe you are and what you believe your world to be. I wonder what LIFE would be like then?
Perhaps instead of believing we could simply BE-living. And instead of believing in ourselves, we could simply BE. Maybe then we can begin to Truly Know who we are.